From the Boundaries Book by Townsend and Cloud:
Test Your Own Boundaries!
Here are some thought provoking statements to help you test and challenge your existing boundaries and help you reset your boundaries where appropriate.
SETTING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION:
· To make choices in my life beyond mere survival.
· To discover, get to know and allow God to challenge my boundaries.
· To grieve over and forgive the less than perfect parenting I received.
· To recognize and accept my own value system and follow my own standards.
· To say NO to anything I am not ready for or is unsafe or which violates my values.
· To have dignity and expect to receive respect.
· To make decisions in harmony with my boundaries.
· To determine and honor my priorities and not surrender control to others.
· To expect my needs and desires to be respected by others.
· To end conversations with people who make me feel put down or humiliated.
· Not to be responsible for the behavior of others.
· To empathize but not to be responsible for the feelings or problems of others.
· Not to be perfect or expect others to be perfect.
· To make mistakes and allow others to make mistakes without rescuing.
· To be honest and expect honesty from others.
· To acknowledge my own feelings, desires and needs.
· To be angry even with those I love.
· To be me without feeling I am not good enough.
· To feel scared and say "I am afraid".
· To experience and then let go of fear, guilt and shame.
· To change my mind and allow others to change.
· To be happy.
