If you've taken my class you know that I highly recommend the Boundaries Book by Drs Townsend and Cloud and also their book called 12 "Christian" Myths that will Drive You Crazy: False Assumptions. I have read these books more than once and they have some solid principles that we all need to set healthy boundaries with people in our lives. Get it read it. Read it again.
The 10 Laws of Boundaries
An excerpt from the book Boundaries in Marriage
by John Townsend and Henry Cloud
1. The Law of Sowing and Reaping: Our actions have consequences.
2. The Law of Responsibility: We are responsible to each other, but not for each other..
3. The Law of Power: We have power over some things; we don't have power over others (including changing people).
4. The Law of Respect: If we wish for others to respect our boundaries, we need to respect theirs.
5. The Law of Motivation: We must be free to say no before we can wholeheartedly say yes.
6. The Law of Evaluation: We need to evaluate the pain our boundaries cause others.
7. The Law of Proactivity: We take action to solve problems based on our values, wants and needs.
8. The Law of Envy: We will never get what we want if we focus outside our boundaries onto what others have.
9. The Law of Activity: We need to take the initiative in setting limits rather than be passive.
10. The Law of Exposure: We need to communicate our boundaries to each other.
